Here is a thought for you. A believer is one who trust in God, but it does not mean that you won’t side step from time to time. It does not mean that you won’t have tribulations in life. Sometimes tribulation can give you the knowledge you need to not repeat that ‘bad’ experience. When you know someone is in tribulation, you should help because there are so many blessings in helping each other. There are always benefits in things you think is a trouble. When we experience calamities, it is a time to step back and rethink our relationship with God.
As human beings we love to find fault with others before we find fault with ourselves. We are quick to pass judgement without gathering all the facts and waiting a moment before we make a decision. Our society constantly feeds us the rapid behavior of instant gratification. We adapt those behaviors and re-act them towards each other. However, often we are not prepared for the consequences that will follow. The ability to always think of each other as loving human beings and not someone always trying to be self-grandising has become difficult but not impossible to do.
In every culture there are things that we do that has no benefit to our state of being but some of us do it anyway. For example, the idea that two people in the same religion however from different cultures and race may want to marry to each other but gets a lot of push back from their families or others is still an issue. Usually its’ because of the traditions and the culture instead of the their religious convictions. Too often we see people in disquietude because of this behavior.
Religion says that the believing people should be with each other but often people put their personal beliefs ahead and religion on the back of their thoughts. So many times this causes people to go against there families wishes and get married anyway. However, the problem now becomes larger because now it causes friction between the two families where it should not have been if they were to approve of the marriage for the sake of God and that is all that mattered in the first place. Think about it, if we as loving beings would do things for each other for the sake of God and not always look for what is in it for me, we would be so much more relaxed. After all, there is always something in it for us, its’ just that we don’t know when that reward will come to us. Just relax and trust God.
I know these conversations are difficult to have when people mix their culture with religion. Its’ like you can’t see the forest from the trees. However, we should be using our intelligence in these affairs and not let our emotions prevail. We should be asking the more important questions about their character, their faith, their financial means, their linage and reasons why they want to be married to each other. Often we don’t investigate each other enough to see if this union is a good fit. There needs to be more marriages in our society for the stability of the human sprit and soul. Our children are growing up not hearing much of these conversations amongst the adults. They both need to know that they are suitable mates from any culture and race and it should be encouraged. Our communities are separated, not because the individual wants to separated themselves, but because we allow ourselves to separate us by race, class and ethnicity.
No one community is better than the another in God’s sight, remember that we were created to get to know each other and although we are slightly different, there is much benefit to knowing each other. Often we are fearful of the unknown and what it may bring. The benefit of knowing each other will surely enrich our lives. If you speak to people who travel to various places out of curiousity or they just want to know how the other side lives, they will always have a much greater and deeper perspective on life and it is usually more positive than negative.
The barriers we often face is due mostly to our own ignorance about each other and not being willing to put in the effort. We often turn a def ear and don’t listen to each other because of our own biases. Sometimes we think we are better than others based in the wealth or education we have but we really don’t know because we are working off of ignorance. Never think you are better than someone because you don’t know, your wealth and intelligence don’t make you better if you spiritual being is restless and lacking a connection with God.